Speaking from the Heart

I felt broken. I was surprised at how empty I felt inside. As a normally cheerful and motivated person, a series of unexpected events – a layoff and some health issues – left me feeling as if all then energy had been sucked out of my world. What I didn’t know then was that this emptiness would soon be filled by new and wondrous insights. Indulging in the pain momentarily – which I would never have let myself do previously – would allow me to discover that we can indeed take the crap that life throws us and turn it into fertilizer for our dreams.

Pain,_Passion_&_Purpose by Marci WiseThat’s why I wrote my latest book, Pain, Passion & Purpose: A Guide to Escaping Torment & Finding Bliss. So many of us feel trapped in our pain instead of realizing that it can be the springboard to our greatest happiness – if we can find the courage to stare it in the face and take back our own power. Through my own anguish I discovered a hidden path to my own authenticity and a renewed zest for life.

Like so many other women, I had a bad case of “good-girl” syndrome – I’d always wanted to be good and do good. I’d believed that by following that credo, life would surely deliver all my dreams. But then it didn’t – and I saw unfairness, injustice, selfishness and greed prosper – and it threw me into a soul searching crisis. Was the world not what I believed it to be? In order to be successful, would I have to become something that I didn’t want to be?

Photo of the "Field of Enlightenment:Surprisingly, I found my answers in nature. Behind my home was an open field of walking trails (which I would come to nickname “The Field of Enlightenment”) and it was there that I would begin to glimpse gifts from God and the Universe – each one refilling the emptiness inside me with wonder and awe.

There’s a magic to living. A mysterious and un-named place where inspiration lives, hope flourishes, and love envelopes the entirety of your being. I stumbled into this spot unexpectedly, but with an open heart and mind I was allowed to find not only the answers to my questions but also what felt like the entire encyclopedia!

As a person, I felt transformed – and as a journalist I was determined to create a pathway that others could follow to find this same space. My research showed me that I was not alone in these discoveries. Great people throughout time had also found incredible illumination through their struggles. In the book, I’ll share their quotes and stories with you – and show you how you too can find solace.

Photos from the Field of Enlightenment
Photos from the Field of Enlightenment

The end result is the priceless discovery that there are no accidents; everything happens for a reason, and most importantly, that we are never alone on our journey. The loving force that rules the world (whatever you choose to call it) is simply awaiting your invitation. And it doesn’t judge you, threaten you, or force you – it simply loves you.  It’s not tied to any religion – simply and aspect of our human nature – as we are all Mind, Body and Spirit.

My intention for this book is to help others become free of their pain and recapture the wonder and excitement for living that they had as children – before disappointment made us dull down our dreams.  Ironically, each painful experience holds a section of the roadmap to your unique purpose. The answers are hidden in plain sight – I’ll show you how to find them by tapping into a Divine inspiration far superior than any plan you could come up with on your own with simple brain-power.

HappinessIt’s my sincere desire to share the keys to freedom that I’ve found with anyone carrying the burden of a heavy pain.  Although it may not feel like it now, you actually have the power of transformation at your fingertips.  Lay down your ego, open your heart and accept your gift – the greatest gift that life has to offer.

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It’s Now or Never Year! Are you Ready?

Okay, I usually try to stay away from the word “never” but there comes a time in our lives when we realize that some dreams are only going to be harder to reach if we wait a minute longer. That’s where I’m at.  I’m in my mid 40’s and sitting squarely in that place where I must decide to either challenge myself by doing these things – or resign myself to letting them go.

What about you?  What are your dreams – and when do you plan on reaching them – if not now?  I’d love to learn to play an instrument, speak a foreign language and then travel the world.  While I certainly can’t do all of it at once, I can develop a plan and focus my energies toward at least one.

goal
goal (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)

Personally, I’ve recently put on a few unwanted pounds.  Is this simply normal for my age or should I dig deep and put up one last fight before resigning myself to a life of polyester?  I see people my age running 5k’s, yet I can’t make it to the corner without breaking a sweat.  Perhaps it’s time to see what I’m made of.  In fact, that’s exactly what I’m going to do.  Why don’t you join me?  Choose your goal – just one – develop a plan – set your intention – and go! Here are some suggestions for making it happen!

There’s an app for that!

If you’re not technologically savvy, now’s the time to start!  Take a moment to see if there’s an app pertaining to your goal and take advantage of what it has to offer.  Apps can add fun and variety to your task as well as provide a record of the benchmarks that you reach along the way.  It’s easy to get bored with the effort after a while (the main reason people give up their goals) and apps can help you keep the journey exciting.

Vintique appEnvision the end result

Place reminders of your goal around your home to help inspire you and keep you focused.  A photo of someone with your ideal body taped to the refrigerator, listening to native music from the language you’re studying, or treating yourself to rewards for meeting short-term goals can help to keep your head in the game. Maybe the average person can’t do this, but then you’ve never been average, have you?  Remember that!

Let others join in the fun!

Life is to be enjoyed! See if you can find other people who have the same goal and link up for friendship, advice and encouragement.  Whether it is in person or through online social groups, you can always find like-minded people with a little detective work. While reaching a goal can sometimes seem like a chore, it can also offer us the chance to widen our sphere of contacts and enhance our lives beyond simple achievement.  Remember, every goal is geared towards helping us live happier, more enjoyable lives, so make it fun!  That’s why we’re doing these things, right?

Say goodbye to the old and welcome the newEnvision Flooding

And, if the time truly has passed for reaching a few of your dreams, then don’t despair.  No one life can do everything – so focus on the wonderful thing you have done – and let those old dreams gently slide away.  It’s a huge world full of new and wondrous possibilities, so set your sights on finding new things that are realistic for the new you.  They have the capability to make you just as happy and perhaps lead you off on a new and exciting adventure that you’d never anticipated.

It’s now or never time people, so let’s do it!  What’s your focus going to be for the new year?

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Time for a New Beginning

Happy New Year
Happy New Year (Photo credit: James Marvin Phelps)

It’s January, the holidays have passed, and we’re now placed on the threshold of a new year – our minds focused on what it may bring.  In actuality, the first few days of the year may be the closest the past, present and future ever come to meeting each other – our minds simultaneously re-evaluating old choices, taking stock of our current conditions and setting new goals. Yet I recently heard that only 40 to 50 percent of people bother to set resolutions for the new year.  That number makes me wonder why.  Is it because they’ve failed before and don’t want to subject themselves to further disappointment (they say that less than half of all resolutions succeed), or does it come from a more positive place with the realization that each new day offers a fresh beginning?

Whatever the case, the truth is that NOW is the time to start living the life you desire.  Here are some tried and true tips for making it happen:

1.      Let go of past mistakes

“It’s toughest to forgive ourselves, so it’s best probably to start with other people. It’s almost like peeling an onion. Layer by layer, forgiving others, you really do get to the point where you can forgive yourself.” – Patty Duke

Everybody has regrets.  There is no such thing as a perfect life – but we can use even our lowest points as a catapult to something greater if we can just get past them. Leave the past in the past but first, find the lesson, if you can (I call this prospecting for gold) and then allow that knowledge to help lead you forward to the right places.

2.      Open yourself to the possibilities

“Finding oneself and one’s path is like waking up on a foggy day. Be patient, and presently the fog will clear and that which has always been there can be seen. The path is already there to follow.” ― Rasheed Ogunlaru

Sometimes we can get so focused on what we think we want that we can completely overlook what right in front of us.  Keep heading in the direction you’re going but always be on the lookout for side roads that may take you to exciting and unexpected places.  The most successful people in history have allowed themselves to venture off the beaten path in order to discover something new and remarkable.

3.      Be willing to take action

Happiness“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.”- William B. Sprague

When you have an idea of what you want to do – get busy!  Brainstorm ideas and outline a plan of action. Once you’ve gained a certain amount of momentum you may be surprised to see new opportunities begin to present themselves.  But the first step is elevating you desires from thought to action.

4.      Don’t give up

“Keep on beginning and failing. Each time you fail, start all over again, and you will grow stronger until you have accomplished a purpose…not the one you began with perhaps, but one you’ll be glad to remember.”
~Anne Sullivan Macy

Nothing great can be accomplished, or even maintained, without effort. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to live and die with every outcome. Learn to place as much emphasis on your progress as you do your advancements.  This mindset will keep you steadily moving forward, increase your energy and allow you to keep your eye on the big picture.

5.      Cultivate happiness now

“When you’re unhappy, you get to pay a lot of attention to yourself. And you get to take yourself oh so very seriously. Your truly happy people, which is to say, your people who truly like themselves, they don’t think about themselves very much. Your unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwellin’ on himself and start payin’ attention to the universe. Unhappiness is the ultimate form of self-indulgence.” ― Tom Robbins

Be Happy
Be Happy (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

While setting goals and taking action are wonderful, our happiness should not be the prize at the end of the line.  We can be happy every step of the way as long as we choose to be.  The little successes and failures along the way don’t define you – so don’t give them that sort of power. We live in a glorious world full of things to uplift our senses and remind us of the gift of truly living.  Walks in nature, laughter with friends, and enjoying a good meal all have the power to bring us back to a happy place as long as we’ll allow them to.  While goals may take effort, happiness is really very simple – keep it that way.

Maybe there’s a third possibility to why some people don’t set New Year’s resolutions – maybe they’re already doing all these things and completely happy with the flow of events in their lives.  If so, that’s the way it should be.  We should all be so lucky!

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