The Seven Steps to Happiness

(Excerpt from Pain, Passion & Purpose )


We spend our lives indulging in a multitude of activities in search of it – happiness. Yet, it often seems elusive. They key to accessing happiness anytime you desire is to get your heart and mind in the right space. Here are seven steps for creating a source of happiness that you can access anytime desire.

Choose it! – Chart a course for happiness by knowing what you want and going after it. Do you like where you live, who you’re with, and what you do for a living? If not, then choose again. We live in a world of vast possibility and although you may have to get creative to make some changes, you can do it! A happy life has many pieces to the puzzle so start fitting them all into place one by one.

Put money in its place – Yes, having money is nice – but if your whole life has become consumed with the drudgery of getting it and keeping it – then remind yourself that it’s just another element in your life. Make whatever changes you need to regain your freedom – even if it means living on a smaller scale than you’re accustomed to. Find happiness in the other areas of your life until money is no longer an issue.

Happiness (Photo credit: Celestine Chua)

Examine your feelings – Be brave. Take the time to face feelings of anger, sadness or unworthiness head-on. Ask yourself, “What is this feeling trying to teach me?” Finding the answer can set you free. Don’t judge yourself harshly for having these feelings – it’s simply your body’s way of purging harmful memories, thought patterns and tendencies. Ignoring them makes them stronger – so shine a light in their direction.

Challenge your mood – After you’ve made an effort to decipher why you’re feeling down, then take back control of this moment by using the “happiness helpers” – listen to upbeat music, watch a comedy, or do something physical to get rid of negative energy. Find the balance between allowing your feeling to exist and taking charge of the now. You can do both – and find the lessons in your own time, in your own way, on your own terms.

Count your blessings – Repeatedly focus on everything that’s right in your life. Gratitude keeps your problems in perspective – and happiness at the forefront of your life. Say a silent “thank you” for each of the things you cherish. When you do, the Universe will bring you more of them!

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Share the wealth – Once you’ve found your happiness – give it away! Happiness grows, multiplies and expands when it’s given to others. The world reflects our actions back to us. Make it a point to make someone else happy every day and you’re ensuring your own connection to joy. Also, it’s easier to be happy when those around you are happy – so set the wheels in motion!

Get out of the way – Don’t let old ideas and fears stand in the way of your ability to live the life you deserve. Take a chance on love. Show your enthusiasm. Speak your truth. It’s freeing and fun – and it chases all those old monsters out of the closet regarding other’s judgments. You are more than worthy of happiness – it’s simply the reward for your own special contributions to the world!

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Marci Wise is the author of Pain, Passion & Purpose. Copyright © 2013 Material is copyrighted but free to repost as long as proper credit is listed, including our website address.

The Liebster Award


While I’ve been celebrating our one year Anniversary, Dee from Insight from a Women’s Heart has nominated the blog for the Liebster Award.  Yea!

Thank you so much, Dee! I’m honored to be in the wonderful company of all those who are speaking up to help make a better world!

Here are 10 questions that my fellow blogger from Insight from a Women’s Heart posed:

1.      What age would you choose to be for the rest of your life?

That’s a tough one, if I could have my body from 22 combined with my mind from 42 – then I’d be a true force of nature (ha!) – But since I can’t, I suppose I would choose 38.  That was the age when I finally stopped being so self-conscious and starting taking chances.  And life has been a whole lot more fun since then!

2.      What makes you lose track of time?

I call myself a “spiritual explorer.”  I love pondering life’s unanswered questions and trying to make greater sense of it all.  In those awesome moments when I’ve actually tapped into an “A-ha” moment, I feel wonderfully alive and there’s honestly nothing that seems more important.

3.      What makes you smile spontaneously?

Babies and animals – and baby animals just put me completely over the top!

4.      What is the bravest thing you have ever done?

I had the opportunity to interview my teen idol crush Rick Springfield – but being shy by nature really had to work up the courage to do it.  I trained for that interview like a person going to war, and in the end not only made the memory of a lifetime but also learned that I could challenge my fears – and win!

5.      Would you bungee jump?

Um, nope – I don’t think so.

6.      If you were a flower what would you be?

I think I’d be a gladiola because they’re beautiful, unique and stand tall at all times.

7.      Hugs or chocolate?

Hugs, every time.

8.      What is your “go to” advice for most situations?

When in doubt, always use love as your guiding light.

9.      What advice would you give to new bloggers?

Write from your heart, appreciate and reach out to other bloggers, and don’t judge your success by the numbers.

10.  What are you most grateful for right this moment?

That I’m more deeply aware that something greater is at work in my life. Now that I know I’m not alone, I don’t have to work up elaborate plans of action or worry about being good enough.  I just show up with an authentic and loving intention – and that always seems to be appreciated.



The rules are for the Liebster Award: 

  • Each nominee must link back the person who nominated them.
  • Answer the 10 questions which are given to you by the nominator.
  • Nominate 10 other bloggers for this award that has less than 200 followers.
  • Create 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
  • Let the nominees know that they have been nominated by going to their blog and      notifying them


And now, I pay it forward by shining a light on some other great and inspiring blogs…

Evolution Made Easier


Codes of Life

Knocked over by a Feather

7 at best

The Flip Flop Ninja

Cynthia Curry


Monica Pirani

Positivelyjohn’s Weblog

Thanks to each of you for sharing your specialness via your blogs…each one is different, unique and inspiring. Keep up the good work!  Be sure to click on the links above to check out their blogs and be inspired.

Here are my 10 questions for you:

1.      How would you sum up your blog in a single sentence?

2.      If you could have dinner with two people, living or dead, who would they be and why?

3.      Do you have a saying or a personal motto?

4.      If you won the lottery, what would be the first thing you’d spend money on?

5.      If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life what would it be?

6.      What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?

7.      What do you do to cheer yourself up when you’re feeling down?

8.      If you could change one thing to help the environment what would that be?

9.      What was your most embarrassing moment?

10.    Who has been your greatest inspiration?

It’s an Anniversary Celebration!

It’s the one year anniversary of the Empowered Living blog – so let’s party like its 1999 (wow, that saying has really lost its punch.)

We’ve laughed, we’ve cried, but most of all, learned that we’re not alone – life is crazy for everybody!  So what did we learn? Let’s celebrate by taking a look back!


Get ready for a real-world wisdom recap!

A Dachshund jumps up to a catch a tennis ball.
A Dachshund jumps up to a catch a tennis ball. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

1.       Nobody’s perfect – and watch out for flying tennis balls

2.       Although our family members may drive us crazy – truth is, we were probably already crazy anyway!

3.       It’s okay to get a little nuts

4.       You gotta feel it, girl! (or guy)

5.       Being a parent may, in fact,  kill you – but there’s no more honorable way to go

6.       Sometimes life is hard – but there are angels among us.

On this anniversary, thanks so much for comments, encouragement, and most of all, your camaraderie.  I’m amazed by the awesome people that make the world go ‘round.  In the wise words of my esteemed Grandmother, “Keep on keepin’ on!”

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Practicing Mindfulness

(Excerpt from Pain, Passion & Purpose )

Sometimes we can make the greatest strides and gain the strongest understanding by breaking things down into their simplest elements. A bustling life full of endless errands can seem overwhelming but in reality our days are really just a series of moments; each moment overflowing with possibility if we can just harness its transformative power. Here’s how:


Appreciate the now – Keep your mind focused on only this moment. Remember, the past empowers you, the future motivates you, but joy is in the present.

Remember all things come in time – Don’t allow impatience to steal your life away! If we’re distracted by what we don’t have, we can’t fully appreciate the blessings that are right in front of us. Focus on the task at hand in each and every moment and eventually all aspects of your life will be served.

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to do list (Photo credit: mister ebby)

Get clear about what’s important right now – Make to-do lists; number the items in order of importance and then start working your way down the list. By writing down chores you release your mind from going over them a thousand times so as not to forget them. You’re only capable of doing do one thing at a time and doing it well, so allow yourself that luxury. After you’ve given an item your full attention and completed the task, mark it off the list. This serves as a visual reminder that you are actually accomplishing something and not just swamped with an endless array of duties.

Sharpen your senses – Practice immersing yourself fully in whatever activity you’re engaged in.  Give even the most mediocre of tasks your full attention. Become intently aware of your surroundings by focusing on each of your senses, one at a time (touch – sight – smell – sound – taste).  In addition to having a calming effect on your body, you’ll find that your appreciation for even mundane tasks will grow.

Be present with the people you love – Our relationships with others are really the most important part of living and we should always strive to keep that distinction in our minds. By allowing cleaning, grocery shopping or doing the laundry to suck up our most vital energy we’re doing ourselves and everyone around us a disservice. Yes, it can be hard to find a happy balance but our moments of true connection with others are what make it all worthwhile, aren’t they?

attention signUse the power of the present moment – Placing your emphasis on the now doesn’t mean you have to give up having goals. It simply means that you’re making the absolute most out of every moment you’re given. When the now moment gives you the opportunity to work towards achieving a goal, you can give it your utmost attention, just as you have all the other aspects of your life. By being without distraction, you’ll find your time more productive and your nerves much less jangled.

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